I say working because I will always be adding to it, if you do take the time to read this feel free to add anything extra you believe could also be helpful
Admitting to yourself and realising that some of the current ways that you are living your life is affecting you negatively in some way and YOU (no-one else can do this for you) make the conscience decision within yourself to attempt to make some changes, regardless of how large or small these changes might be.
Try to take advice openly from all the resources that you have available to you so that you can come to and make your own realisations and decisions as to what you believe is the right cause of action, NOT THEM:
–Friends and family members
–Medical doctors or health service professionals
–Information that you have researched yourself
–Spending time to yourself to notice what mental and physical ailments are affecting you negatively
–Spending time observing your regular habits and see how they may be attributing to the way you feel and the emotions that come with it.
–Listening to your internal voice, more often than not it has some wisdom to be heard
Make a short and long term plan that you believe to be attainable, do not try and force change too fast as it likely to result in some form of relapse.
Realise that positive change is not always an upward hill and that it is perfectly normal at times to slip back into what you perceive to be some ‘old bad habits’ every now and then. We were never created perfect and to aspire for perfection may seem great in our minds but goes against our very nature.
Make your plans adaptable to the unforeseen events that occur in daily life, a daily ritual is great, however you must make allowances for the forces at play around us.
Instead of trying to develop and master one singular coping mechanism during times of distress, rather try to collect a multitude of strategies that can be adapted accordingly to whatever the situation presents.
Write regular lists of obtainable goals, so that when you complete some of these you are able to feel success that YOU created and allowed YOURSELF to achieve.
Attempt to create as many positive atmospheres as possible for you to spend time in. Surround yourself in these areas of imagery / smells / sounds / sensations / tastes that bring you back to times in your life where you felt calm, relaxed and in control. As you spend time in these places try to fully absorb using all senses these positive feelings, so that when you want to do something you are able to go to this place in clear conscience and work on your projects.
You may hear or read about many simple mind and body exercises that may seem silly at the time. Examples might be, taking in 10 deep breaths before talking to somebody stressful, or spend 5 minutes each day stretching, or the simplicity of mindfulness which is paying attention to what is going on around you at the time, not paying attention to the thoughts that pop up in your head.
Before dismissing simple techniques that you hear about, it is always worth to give it a try over a period of time and see if any difference is made. There is no prescription as to what works for you because every human being is unique and has unique needs and wants. If you can look at all things with an open mind, maybe some of the things u learn and practice will hold merit for you and are worth looking into further whilst others may not. The fact that you tried is already making a huge step forward, many people struggle at this stage: the desire is not great enough to try something new to change the way their lives are going.
You may be prescribed medication, this WILL NOT cure you, make you better, fix you in some way. You don’t need to be fixed, you are perfectly fine the way you are.
However, medication if used in the correct way can also be very effective for some people over a certain period of time. The medication is not intended to make you feel better, rather to allow you some time away from your true self as living in your own skin 24 hours a day at this point in time is too overwhelming for you in some way. This allows the body and mind some down-time from whatever thoughts have been running around your head so that you can look at these thoughts and feelings in a calm, relaxed and logical minded state and make changes accordingly during the times that you do not feel overwhelmed.
This can be very effective provided that you do not get caught up in the trap of being allured more to the replacement stress free world that medication can provide.
By now your brain is probably overloaded with alot of information, finding a way to express those thoughts that go on in your mind and into the outside world. Examples could be, a journal, diary, drawing, singing, musical instrument, a favourite hobby, painting, computed related. Anything at all, find your way of expressing how you feel inside so that the thoughts do not build up and overload you at times.
After taking careful consideration of what information you have learned, develop what you believe to be an appropriate form of action. As time goes on and you learn more, you can alter, adjust and tweak your actions in the ways that you see fit.
If meditation and mindfulness are practiced over a period of time, it slowly becomes easier to see the ups and downs within yourself during the moment that they occur, instead of when it’s too late for action upon reflection.
The more aware and dynamic you are, the faster you are able to administer the correct action to put you back in into the correct body and mind state whenever it flows too far out of balance.
There may be some activities in your life that you would like to change, your role is to challenge these activities and see if the merit they hold is real, or is merely a perception in your mind that has been repeated over and over and knows no other path.
In respect to activities you would like to change, it is important to de construct each activity so that it can be looked at from as many steps and states of minds possible for a better rounded view on the activity. Identifying and changing 1 small step in the activity allows room for that 1 small change to act as a catalyst for larger change of the activity, instead of trying to drastically change the activity entirely which is much harder.